4 surprising ways to think about New Year’s resolutions

Most of us do it every year: As soon as Christmas comes to a close we start thinking about New Year's — and all the ways that we can work to improve ourselves starting on January 1.

New Year's resolutions can be a great opportunity to set new goals and make positive changes. But sometimes high pressure or unrealistic expectations can cause even the most motivated folks to fall short — and become disappointed. In fact research from the University of Scranton suggest that only 8 percent of people actually achieve their New Year's resolutions.

If those numbers seem discouraging don't worry. Meeting goals you set for the New Year isn't always easy but it is doable. Here are four helpful ways to approach your resolutions — and up your odds for success.

1. Think about what makes you happy

The idea of trying to lose 10 pounds or fit into a certain size of jeans sounds like hard work not fun. So instead of focusing on difficult or unpleasant resolutions shift your attention to ones that make you feel good like exercising every day or eating more fresh fruits and vegetables. Those types of changes are more positive — and can make you feel happier and more excited about meeting your targets.

2. Rally the troops

Whether you're trying to lose weight save more and spend less or quit smoking telling people about your intentions just might make it easier to achieve them. Your friends and family can play an active role in supporting you — for instance by finding fun ways to exercise together or cooking at home instead of spending money on expensive (and less healthy!) restaurant meals.

3. Find ways to give back

Most of our resolutions involve trying to improve ourselves. Which is a great thing — but it can also be frustrating. So how about turning your attention to ways you can help others instead? Whether it's volunteering to spend time with senior citizens or walking dogs at the local animal shelter doing things for those in need makes you feel good. Which might be just the motivation you need to get started on your own goals.

4. Be gentle on yourself

You'd never call a friend or family member a failure just because she didn't achieve her New Year's resolution. So why do it to yourself? If you're having trouble meeting your goal don't beat yourself up. Instead put that energy toward figuring out the changes you can make to turn your resolution into reality.

Remember it's great to take steps toward self-improvement by making a New Year's resolution. Just try to focus on the positive — and try not to be too hard on yourself. That's the sort of mindset that leads to success.